Humans have a natural negativity bias from ancient times. It was an evolutionary necessity to notice and avoid danger. Therefore, we need to be very deliberate in noticing what went well.
If it helps you to journal, try “I am most proud of my child for doing, or not doing, __” What about you? Did you stay calmer? Did you skip the guilt this time? There’s always a bright spot.
Once you are able to take a balanced look at what went well, you’re better able to decide what worked and what you want to do differently next time. Don’t be afraid to find some humor in the situation.
Giving yourself a hand means to offer yourself the same support that you would offer another mother in your situation.
Rule 1: Stop talking shit about yourself to yourself.
Rule 2: Treat yourself with the kindness you would give an internet stranger.
Rule 3: Treat yourself with the kindness you would treat your best friend.
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Hi Lisa,
I have a 27-year-old son with autism. I remain very concerned about his situation in the now and when I am not here. Nothing new for all parents who deal with this. I need to know if there is a possibility of a force to make is choice of where are children are placed. Then, the needs for :
1. cameras,
2 transparency.
3. accountability
4. good nutrition.
5. Parent accessibility at no notice but they can certainly have visiting hours.
6. PArent groups that meet without facility staff.
7. compatible peers to live with peers.
8. Help with dating.
9. emotional trauma
10. Advocacy has no meaning without this nor do the laws in place for the disabled.
I see no conversations around this and most parents simply do not share information. Is there any group that is willing to share and build some momentum around this? Many thanks